Recommendations on crying, by Ribonuff, learned before, during and after the passing of Randy Pausch - and of Ribo's father before then.
Try not to cry within a couple hours of bed time. After being horizontal since right after that (yes, that is a Germanism poking through) for 8 hours, your eyes will look bloodshot and puffy for at least half of the next day, until the lymph system has done its job removing edamatous accumulations. The lymph system can best do this with the bulk of the body in a vertical position; it's a gravity-aided process [Note to self: tell the people in space to try to cry not too close to the onset of their sleep cycle, today. They won't have had gravity to help them appear quasi-normal by the next interplanetary (!) video event].
Do you Want to look bad all the next day? I imagine not. One day is enuff - at a time, anyway.
I like to get my crying done by mid-afternoon, if possible. It's okay with me if I look bad for the rest of that day; I am typically in mourning for something or other, and may want to wear my mourning like a badge that day.
So, it was early today that I started crying for the repose of the soul of Randy Pausch, and for eventual comfort, healing and integration for the wide family he leaves behind.
Best wishes to Randy Pausch in heaven - whether or not he wants to be there, tee hee - Ribonuff
P.S. Randy Pausch and I overlapped at university by one year. Regretfully, I did not seek out all of the best and the brightest as soon as I arrived on campus, so I can't claim actually having known him. I only know of his good and loving and intelligent works.
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Friday, July 25, 2008
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2 comments:
this is a very sad post, ribonuff, i think. are you saying that you cry on a daily basis; is this your daily habit?
i may be more sensitive to the subject than others, as i know a close friend who suffers from obsessive compulsive disorder, and depression. it is outwell treatable though in his case.
another dear friend - who used to be for about three years (and perhaps until this very day) - one of these love/hate friends, suffers from bipolar disorder (F31 in ICD-10) without admitting to it.
i hope you can enjoy life and see the rewarding and comforting qualities to it.
Hi Brawny, thanks for writing!
I don't cry much, actually. Probably less than 5 times per year (?). But I more or less welcome crying when it comes - it feels "cleansing".
I liked reading the personal anecdotes you supplied.
Best, Ribonuff
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