Email from a friend to a friend

Hi friend, thank you for the nice birthday greetings for K3 yesterday. Yes, she is fortunate to be a happy healthy middle class American child. :-) I think K3 had fun with her family birthday yesterday. Today she has piano lessons. I'm going to write myself notes NOT to work in the yard this afternoon, because I might forget piano lessons again if I get sucked out there ...

Thank you for saying I'm a good parent. I usually spend quite a bit of time thinking that I could be a much better parent ... I realize that's a less-than-positive way of thinking ... maybe I should at least be thankful for the skills and gifts of time that I am employing ...

I had sweatpants and a sweater on over my t-shirt and shorts when I went into the gym this morning. I think it made a difference in how long I stayed chilled this morning (only until 9). That was a little gift to self, or maybe some employment of common sense.

I snickered and smiled repeatedly on your writing about women freaking out over cleaning being in our collective DNA. That made me determined in the past 24 hours not to worry too much about the cleaning (but to keep doing it, as I can), and to spend more time laughing with the kids. Yesterday afternoon I just had K1 and K2 because K3 was at play practice ("Wipe-out") from 3 to 5:30. I was pleasant and cheerful around them. I am smiling now and again, and feeling blessed. I also feel strong physically and mentally.

Yesterday my cohort told me that "anniversary phenomenon" can be quite real and significant ... or not ... I took that to mean I have some say in how much I wallow in the pain of the past. I then felt rather positive and redirected - not worrying too much about making dinner Tuesday, cleaning, etc., determined to enjoy the people around me and give them my attempt at my best.

I am glad for you that you have your kids and your whole family to love. You are all "good people". I am so pleased to know you and to know of you.

Have a good day, friend, Love, 90hazelnut

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